Don’t Believe What They Tell You
I recently came across an old movie with Julia Roberts called Sleeping with the Enemy. It is a dark and painful story of one woman’s journey to escape a violent and dangerous man ~ her own husband. For her, the courtship was perfect. He was loving, attentive and treated her like a queen. But soon after they married his real personality emerged. And she never saw it coming. As I watched, I sat there feeling extreme sadness for this woman and the pain she had to endure. Instead of a living in a loving environment, she lived in a constant state of fear afraid to say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing. Her husband manipulated her with his lifeless words and threats of violence if she didn’t comply to his every wish. My heart broke for her. Especially when she had to “put on a smile” in front of him and pretend like everything was ok.
I know there are many of you out there who are experiencing a similar dark and painful journey whether it is in your marriage, or with a parent, or perhaps even a bully. If this is you, I want to tell you something.
If someone talks down to you, if you are constantly told that you are no good or that you are worthless, dear sister, don’t believe what they tell you!
Don’t believe their lies. They only spew that venom out of jealousy because they see something within you that they wished was in themselves. They see your strength, your desire to live, and your hope for a better future, and that scares them. So don’t believe what they tell you.
You are loved, you are beautiful, you are smart, you are worthy and you are seen and accepted by the One who matters…. God Himself.
13 For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well. (Psalm 139:13-14)
8 But now, O Lord, You are our Father,
We are the clay, and You our potter;
And all of us are the work of Your hand. (Isaiah 64:8)
Just because someone says something does not make it truth.
If someone tells you that you’re stupid… don’t believe what they tell you.
If someone tells you that you’re fat… don’t believe what they tell you.
If someone tells you that you’re ugly… don’t believe what they tell you.
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You are exactly who you are supposed to be. You are unique, which is good because if everyone was the same, the world would be a very boring place. So learn to embrace your differences.
Got curves? Celebrate them.
Got curly hair? Rock it.
Barely made it through school? Rejoice in even the smallest successes.
Start believing in who you ARE, not in who you AREN’T. Don’t know who you are? The Bible is a great place to begin. Read a Psalm and a Proverb every day. Even if you don’t understand it, read it anyway. Ask God to give you wisdom as you read and soon enough you will “see” things you hadn’t seen before. Listen to who God says you are. He is the only One with the power to speak truth into your life.
On this journey toward authenticity, one of the most important things to realize is that you are not going to live up to everyone’s expectations. So stop trying to.
Just don’t believe what they tell you.
Unless they tell you that you’re awesome. 🙂